Thursday, March 3, 2011

Blog: Get in where you fit in?

I don't know where I fit in.

When I first started reading blogs (and eventually having my own) I was trying to get an idea of the path my life was headed.  My mom has just passed away and I was in love with a soldier who had just finished medical school and we were talking about our future.   "What in the world am I getting in to?"  *voila* Blogs!  Blogs by women who were married to or dating men in the military, the very first I read was a woman who was married to not only a solider but a physician in the same stage of his career as my ex-love, and *wow* here is a woman who not only loved a soldier she recently lost a parent.  I absorbed every tale they told.  What great insight and information I collected from these blogs.  I couldn't believe I found women who had such similar experiences.  I could related.  More importantly they could relate to me.  I felt I fit in with this group of women bloggers that I had discovered. 

Time and life move on... relationship ups and downs, my soldier deployed and I could read and learn more from this great community who had been there and done that.

And here we are today.  The relationship did a total dramatic and very unpleasant crash and burn. (I was bamboozled)

Where do I fit in with this whole blog thing?  I know I'm not a writer and this isn't a place folks check in to see what witty tale I'm going to share today.  I'm not a photographer to post amazing photos of my adventures.  I'm not a mom.  I'm no longer attached to anything related to loving a man in the military. I don't have a business to promote.  I'm not a fitness goddess.

But damn it, I just want to feel like I fit.  Even if it's only 3 people that read and comment I've grown to like that feeling of connection to a whole new group of people and I'm not really sure I have that so much anymore. 

Who knew a blog could make me feel so emotional?  I'm sure it has nothing to do with PMS or having a broken heart. *pft whatevh*


Nice Peace of Buddhy said...

We need to know we are normal and not alone. And some days it is easier to bare your soul to this blog world where people relate. There is so much peace in that. I have cried and LOL'ed over blogs. I have gained so much insight from people I have never met and probably never will. Blogger therapy.


Mich said...

I know what you mean. I originally started my blog as an account of our lives living in China. But it wasn't very personal. It was mostly just pictures and information. And I was okay with that. I honestly thought I'd stop after we got home. But now, it's for ME. I feel better when I write a post that's close to me. I feel like this is my place to be ME. Not mommy, wife, daughter, sister, friend. Just me. I know I'll never have 100+ followers like a lot of people out there. But I'm okay with that. I still have my place to vent and get my feelings out. And that's what's REALLY important.

Anonymous said...

I think you originally fit into a group due to common interests, but you continue the relationships you've built with people because they care about you and you care about them.

Plus, some of the best blogs are from people that don't have a specific niche. They just blog about life, and that's something we can all relate to!

T said...

Agree with all 3.

Just be you. Share you. The cool thing is that this can be whatever you want. Make it yours!

You fit in because you're human, breathing, hurting, loving, alive.

Big love.

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

Just talk about what you want to. There's blogs that do that too! I agree with the others... just be you!

Danielle said...

Just know that we who read feel like you fit very well. I have been where yoou are and maybe still am a little. I do hhave a group of loyal followers that have weeded themselves over the years and I love those that are left! I love what you have to say!